4 Tips To Build A Stable, Strong, And Long-Lasting Romantic Relationship
December 7, 2017 13:14 By Fabiosa
Our desperation to establish life as a couple can lead to certain mistakes which end up converting our relationship into a huge world war. By pretending everything is perfect or controlling every detail, we don't realize how we're affecting the other person involved.
We don't take into account the differences between individual human beings, nor the biological question of male or female, which makes us see and understand the world in different ways.
Here, we give you a series of tips for dealing with relationships and achieving harmony and balance with your partner.
1. Stop thinking that a positive romantic relationship is only that which ends in marriage.
Occasionally, we think of marriage as the institution of happiness, responsibility, harmony, and that's totally wrong. We're not trying to say that nobody should get married or that taking that step isn't important. What we're trying to say is that focusing on the marriage as "an essential objective" is a big mistake.
All relationships can teach us something, as long as we know how to learn from them. Those which last a year, a decade or even a day are important too. We can experience a relationship, which doesn't end in marriage, but in which we're very much committed and in love.
Sometimes, when we start putting pressure on taking the next step, our partner can tense up and begin arguing, become distant and even end the relationship.
It's important to maintain a dialogue and understanding in the relationship. What for some may be a dream, may not be for others, and that doesn't mean they feel any less love.
Marriage doesn't guarantee happiness or a successful relationship, so we should try not to pressure that direction, and instead live every relationship intensely and consciously.
2. If you ask to hear the truth, you shouldn't be mad about the answer you receive.
Men and women are very different. The most basic matters for women, such as being too inquisitive or asking about something which is obvious can be annoying for men. According to some scientists, this is due to men's Y chromosome. The problem is that, in the end, neither partner learns how to deal with the differences which exist between them.
For example, generally, when a girl goes out and tries on clothes, she runs straight out to ask her boyfriend what he thinks. He doesn't hold back with his comment and she gets upset that it isn't what she wanted to hear.
The problem isn't a chromosome, but the incapability of both to recognize the attitudes of others and not communicating in order to achieve that.
There may be many solutions, but for the sake of the relationship, the best solution is one in which both end up happy. She could learn to respect his opinion without implying that she has to always change her outfit because of a negative opinion. Or he could understand that it's important for her to understand his opinion.
3. It's not advisable for women to talk about other men with their partner.
Often, women resort to this method of attracting their man's attention. But this is another big mistake. While we've mentioned that communication is the foundation of any good relationship, talking to our boyfriends about other men or previous relationships could be dangerous for the future of the relationship.
Firstly, we must understand that every action and decision we make is infused with social aspects. And society has taught us all that women don't think about men other than our partner or family members.
While it's a matter that is influenced by misogyny, the problem isn't that we don't think about or have relationships with other men, but that we don't use them as ammunition in order to get our boyfriend's attention. Under those circumstances, he'll feel insecure, suspicious and subsequently, there may not be anything else you can do to fix this feeling.
If you want more attention from your partner, initiate it with things that they like, share special moments together, and understand them. Most importantly, you don't have to be beside somebody who doesn't make you happy.
If you're not satisfied with how your partner treats you, and they refuse to change, you have no reason to continue with the relationship.
4. Avoid feelings of possessiveness: Nobody belongs to anybody else.
Generally, we think that being in a relationship gives us the power to intervene or decide things for our partner. That's another big mistake. Surely when you were young you thought that your parents had no right to tell you who could or couldn't be your partner, or if you could go to a party or not.
You felt as though nobody had the right to control your actions. Is that what you've become all of a sudden?
Maintaining a romantic relationship isn't an obligation. Both people have to be in agreement. The way of dealing with life as a couple is built up over time and evolves according to the will and perspective of both partners. Thinking that you have any right over the other is a terrible mistake.
Taking their phone to check it, telling them what to do every step of the way, or wanting to prevent your boyfriend from simply going out with his friends will never have a happy ending. You play with the other person's privacy and you take on rights which don't belong to you. A partner is your partner in battle, not your favorite stuffed animal.
As we can see, many of these tips can help us more than once in life. Communication is one of the fundamental pillars of any relationship and we can see it reflected throughout these 4 tips.
Try to handle your love life with confidence and security, and don't cling to people just to avoid being alone.
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