26 Things To Tell Children To Make Them Confident And Happy

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What you say to your child and how you say it matters a lot, especially when they are young. The younger your child is, the more receptive they are, so it's important to say the right things to build your child's self-confidence, help them develop adequate self-esteem, encourage them to learn, and just make him or her happy.

Confident and happy children whose parents are always there for them and acknowledge their achievements grow up to be confident and happy adults. Here are some things that you can say to your child to boost their self-confidence and show that you care.

1. I'm glad that you ask questions.

2. I love that you're so curious/inquisitive.

Your child is actively learning about how the world works, and a lot of things that you take for granted are new and exciting to them. Show that you appreciate them being curious and asking questions, and encourage your kid to ask more.

3. I love that you have your own opinion.

4. What would you like to do?

5. What do you think about it?

It's vitally important to let your child decide what he or she wants to do (when it's appropriate) and encourage him or her to have his own opinion.

Ask your child which movie he or she would like to watch or where he or she wants to go for a family outing. Let them choose extracurricular activities on his/her own. This way, your child will grow into an independent adult.

6. Do you need help with that?

7. It's okay to make mistakes, you learn from them.

8. It seems difficult now, but I know you can do it.

Mistakes can be frustrating, and your child may be upset when they didn't manage to do something on their first try. Let your child know that mistakes are a normal part of the learning process, and ask them what exactly is difficult and what help they need.

9. You are getting better and better at this.

10. Your effort is paying off.

11. I see you're working hard, and it's impressive.

12. You are capable of reaching your goal.

When your child becomes interested in something (such as drawing), and invests time and effort into their new hobby, acknowledge his or her progress.

13. I love to see you smile.

Say it anytime, especially when your child is sad or upset and you want to lift his or her spirits up.

14. You are a great storyteller.

Children have a great imagination, and almost all of them love to make stories. If he or she shares such a story with you, show that you're really interested and the story is great, and he or she is good at telling stories.

15. You are such a good/kind friend.

16. It was really nice and thoughtful of you to do that.

When you see your child doing something nice for others, let them know you noticed and praise him or her for that.

17. You're just like your dad/mom.

When used in a positive context, this phrase is something your child would like to hear. A parent is someone a child looks up to, a good parent is a positive role model. It's even better to make it more specific, such as "You are so good at singing, just like your mom" or "You are so brave, just like your dad".

18. I was just telling your grandma/grandpa/aunt/uncle how good you are at this.

Your child would be happy to hear that you're proud of his/her achievement and decided to share the news with family.

19. You don't have to be like others, be yourself!

20. I love you just the way you are.

21. It's great that you have your own (unique) way of doing...

Every parent thinks their children are unique, and they are quite right! Tell your child that you love him or her for who he or she is, and that you appreciate him or her doing things his or her own way.

22. You're beautiful inside and out.

Let your child know how beautiful he or she is (he or she has your genes, after all), and also teach him or her that it's inner beauty that is the most important, and encourage him or her to look for it in others.

23. I'm always there for you.

As your child grows up, he or she becomes more and more independent, but he or she needs your love, help, and support all the same. Tell your child you're always ready to provide that, no matter how old he or she is.

24. You have such interesting ideas.

25. You're so smart/creative/talented!

All children are creative, and this creativity needs to be fostered. Encourage your child to keep doing what they like to do, be it writing, drawing, acting or something else. Who knows, maybe it will become their passion for life, or even influence their choice of occupation someday in the future?

26. Thank you so much for your help, I really appreciate it.

If your child sees you doing something around the house, such as cleaning or cooking, and wants to take part, give him or her an easy, safe, and doable task and say how glad you are he or she helped you.

Source: Parent Co., PsychCentral, PopSugar

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This article is purely for informational purposes. Do not self-medicate, and in all cases consult a certified healthcare professional before using any information presented in the article. The editorial board does not guarantee any results and does not bear any responsibility for harm that may result from using the information stated in the article.

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