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Jana Kramer Talks About Her Miscarriage And Tells Others To Speak Out And Get Help

Date December 13, 2017 12:00

Heartbreaking, gut-wrenching, devastating are words that cannot begin to encapsulate the feelings a woman goes through when she loses a child in a miscarriage. Is it the dreams that will never materialize that she wants to think about?

Or the shattered expectations of being a mother to a lovely soul that will not come to be for that particular child? Or, even the rude, forever separation between herself and a child she has begun to grow an inexplicable bond with? It is a pain that is yet incomprehensible to anyone who hasn’t experienced it.

The singer’s loss

In the wake of the 9th of December 2017, just as many are beginning to catch up with the festive period, singer Jana Kramer took to her Instagram wall to share a news well-worth describing as heartbreaking. She had miscarried a child she so desperately longed for and had begun to share a deep bond with.

Today I am 1-3. I debated posting this for the exact reason why it’s a silent struggle. I don’t want I’m sorry or sympathy. I just don’t want to feel alone. And I know I’m not. This unfortunately isn’t my first loss. When I first found out I was pregnant I wanted to shout it from the rooftop but I know for reasons like this we have to wait. So because we don’t tell many, we have to suffer silently...and suffering silently was my thing in the past, but it’s not now. For the women out there who have miscarried in the past and need support and a place to grieve their little one lost or to those in the thick of it like me who are currently grieving and in pain, let us all be there for each other. You don’t need to feel alone and maybe that’s me talking to myself but if you need a place to share, I’m here for you...and all of us are (and guys too. We sometimes silence your voice because you feel bad to express how it’s made u feel so let this be a safe place for you too). And because I don’t have all the words to say because I’m knee deep in crying and trying to listen to God, my girlfriend @alittlebitfancy says them for me. But in her Words and her story on her loss. It’s powerful and strong and those who have suffered a loss I truly feel u can heal reading her blog. I know for me it helped. Head over to her page. Her link is in the bio and also in my bio. I love you guys. #yourenotalone

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Jana said:

This, unfortunately, isn’t my first loss. When I found out that I was pregnant, I wanted to share it from the rooftop but I know for reasons like this, we have to wait.

She had earlier miscarried another pregnancy and history was repeating itself.

What makes this different however is that she is not keeping quiet about it. Neither, is she incubating all of the grief, agony, and pain that comes with such a loss. Rather, she has decided to be the voice for the voiceless women going through same. As well as a rock of strength and support that they can draw from during their traumatic period.

About the singer

Jana Kramer is a 34-year-old American actress and country music singer. She got on Television in 2003 when she made a guest appearance on “All My Children”.

Today is a very big day for me. I have experienced many emotions and received so much love. Earlier this year, I parted ways with my label, which left me with so much fear, confusion and frustration for what the future had in store for my music career. Many said, “it can’t be done without a label.” I reached a point where I felt I had disappointed my fans, my band, my team and my family leaving me with a sense of failure. I truly wanted to throw in the towel. Then, I got the call that @nicatnitemusic wanted to meet with me. My first question was why - why would she want to meet with me? I have no label…nothing. But we met, drank wine and shared our life’s stories. We created a bond over how life has hit us at times, but we never fell down without getting back up. Nicolle then shared “I’ve Done Love” with me and the rest is history. Nicolle, along with @shanemcanally and @joshosbornesongwriter ,wrote an incredible song and what I love most about it, is that we did it our way. No one’s permission. No holding back. To complete the process, I had the greatest pleasure of asking Nicolle to produce the song and she knocked it out of the park, alongside @bradwinters. I have always preached, “never give up on your dreams” and I was so close to giving up on mine. Thank you for calling me Nicolle. Thanks for giving me my voice back. I have done love. It has given me cuts and scars. It has bruised me and left me broken. I’ve done the hard stuff, but I have no regrets, because it’s love that makes the world go round.

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Following that, she went on to establish herself as a TV star as she made appearances in quite a number of shows. Perhaps, her most famous role though would be Alex Dupree as played out by her in the TV series "One Tree Hill."

She would later buck the series in its 9th season as she went on to pursue a career in music. This decision seemed to agree well with her as success romanced her in her new endeavor. Her official debut single  “Why Ya Wanna” came up to number 52 on the US Billboard “Hot 100 chart”  and number 3 on the Billboard “Hot Country Songs” chart.”

She had a stint with Dancing with the Stars on season 23, reached the finals of the show and finished off in 4th place. She is married to Washington Redskins tight end Mike Caussin whom she shares an adorable daughter with, Jolie Rae Caussin.

How to survive a miscarriage.

If anything at all, Jolie has passed a salient message across by taking to her platform to show folks that suffering in silence might not be the best way out in these circumstances. Rather, voicing out and finding a community of other women who might be in the same throes may be more helpful in overcoming this loss in the long run.

Aloha from Hawaii #hangloose

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This goes without saying that the people you surround yourself with might not necessarily be those who have gone through such a pain but trustworthy and empathetic loved ones might just be as helpful.

Asides this, it’s important that you take your time to process the loss, grieve over it and not just rush through the moment as this will inevitably leave a hollowness that might still be there for several years.

Losing a child is not desirable to anyone. When it happens though, we can only just trust that the periods of pain will come to an end and we will find comfort in the midst of it all. To Jana and all those who might be going through this at the moment, our thoughts are prayers are with you.

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